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Who should pay the bill?

Birthdays, first dates, work dinners, the friend who always “forgets” their wallet. Here’s what people usually expect, and fair ways to decide when nobody knows.

The usual rules

Birthdays

The birthday person doesn’t pay. Everyone else splits their share. If the birthday person invited everyone to a fancy place, it’s kind to offer to cover drinks or dessert.

First dates

Whoever asked usually offers to pay. Offering to split is always polite. The worst option is an awkward silence, so decide before the bill arrives.

Work dinners

The most senior person or whoever invited typically pays, often on a company card. If it’s a team night out with no expense budget, split evenly.

Big groups

Split evenly unless orders were wildly different. Use a split the bill calculator to add tip and tax in seconds.

The friend who never pays

Take turns on purpose: whoever paid least recently pays next. Or let a game decide, so it isn’t personal.

Five fair ways to decide

1. Split evenly. Fastest, and fine when orders were similar.
2. Pay for what you ordered. Fairest when orders differ a lot.
3. Take turns. Great for groups that eat out every week.
4. Credit card roulette. Everyone puts a card in; the server’s pick pays. Exciting, but there’s no proof and people get suspicious.
5. Play a game. A quick game turns the most awkward moment of the night into the best one.